2021.12.03 21:42 origamibee Please send me all the strength
My ex called me last night to let me know he was on the way to a girls house to have sex w her. He listed all the ways she was better than me. How much more loving she is. How she says and does all the things that were hard for me to do like be vulnerable.
I stayed calm, I didn’t spiral, I didn’t self harm. Anxiety is at 100000000 but I didn’t beg or plead and fall back into that trap. The DBT skill of radical acceptance has been my solace.
It’s so weird how you can be so far gone from someone and not want them in your life at all but then you’re faced with their manipulation and your heart feels like it’s going to betray you.
Either way, I’m proud of myself. I’ve come a long way.
Love you all
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2021.12.03 21:42 KRIEGER-_ Playground Games better be working hard right now.
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2021.12.03 21:42 xElbyy we made AWFUL DISCORD PRESENTATIONS...
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2021.12.03 21:42 notthefirstCaleb Infected finger tip and weird nail growth from injury
2021.12.03 21:42 Live-Somewhere788 How were you as a child?
I’m 36, actually I’m about to be 37. I have struggled my entire life. But I always blamed myself. I can’t keep jobs, I get so burnt out so quick. Within the past months I started really diving into mental health illnesses. I believe I am autistic/adhd. I have no idea where to start for help. I live in a conservative state (Texas), and I’m not sure if there’s many options where I am. I was addicted to opioids on and off over the years. My use was never to escape, but to survive. It helped me become the person I needed to be to make it in this world. But with all the bad side effects, I had to give that up for good. Now I just want to get to the bottom of the problem. I need help. I’m so scared for my future. I’m so scared I will end up homeless one day.
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2021.12.03 21:42 k0zer_frazz3r Life goes on and thats a problem
Since covid started ive done nothing but become worse and worse. Now the situation is going back to normal and people all around me are too, while i am stuck. I cant make friends and i struggle mantaining those one or two relationships i have left. People all around me are getting partners and having fun as someone in their teenage years should but i am so fucking stupid and awkward and im so afraid this will go on forever. I dont feel like i have a place in this world and im just a misfit, not even a quirky one, just a sad one. Its so difficult seeing the life you wanna live be lived while you just cant do anything about it. Im just wishing for a miracle to happen at this point
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2021.12.03 21:42 Ehansaja Won't give a fuck.
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2021.12.03 21:42 BeulahLight13 I was getting the kitties their food when I turned around and saw this…
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2021.12.03 21:42 Chickenchick11 The danger is that you might run into Somber herself.
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2021.12.03 21:42 Aesnfeb Exotics rn
I wanna use my cipher so I can get another from xur but which exotics should I hope to get/find at the kiosk? I rly wanna try last word but I heard its horrible on mnk, and I already have ace, stompeez dunemarchers, graviton forfeit, telesto, and a lot more, but lmk which ones you like for both pvp and pve.
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2021.12.03 21:42 RareDog91 Level 5 raid Reshiram (be online) 5385 7068 6424
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2021.12.03 21:42 RonaldRaygunz What should Bima Illustrate? (Survey Link)
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2021.12.03 21:42 amnred103 Proud Boys to hold ‘Kyle Rittenhouse appreciation rally’ in SLC on Saturday. Several other local militia groups are co-sponsoring the Second Amendment Rally - 12/03/2021
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2021.12.03 21:42 Short_N_Spicy Stella toofers when in full chill mode
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2021.12.03 21:42 jennac1771 stars not on account
Hi! I’m a customer I ordered in person yesterday and scanned app. it’s been over 24 hours and I still don’t see stars on my account. It was about $20 so about 20 stars. Not a lot but I would like to see them and get the play for starbucks for life. Does anyone know who to contact if stars aren’t on account?
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2021.12.03 21:42 NaWerBinIch Wer ist dieser gutaussehende Typ? :D
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2021.12.03 21:42 RegalTruth9 Why is Andy's acting so bad?
2021.12.03 21:42 zky-on-yt kalm
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2021.12.03 21:42 Adventurous_Ad1207 [ verified seller ] Nice th14 with pirate scenery, lots of skins, 80 medals, good builder base, 6 builders, few magic items, good PB and a 1000nc - 135$
2021.12.03 21:42 AnIsolatedMind External Justification of the Self
All reasoning is done in objective terms: to persuade another or ourselves of an objective, external universal truth, or else a pragmatic, relative one. Every thought regarding the self works within the realm of this universalizing reason, and therefore every identification within the mind is an externalized attempt to justify our identity.
The ego is the false self held together by the reasoning mind. Identifications are with concepts: rational arguments which attempt to provide the self with universal, objective, unalienable truth and stability. We want to exist untouchable, and so when we feel that the reasoning for our existence is insufficient or based on shaky ground, we begin our work on constructing more true and stable self-concepts.
But the Self, who we truly are beneath this process, requires no argument for its constant, clear, and inalienable existence. Yet living in this social world, we are burdened with this task of proving to one another that we are valid persons. If we do not give a convincing argument, our identity is dismissed as invalid, unreal, unworthy of love and consideration. We can choose to give into this criticism and struggle for external validation of the self, always refining our self concept toward a greater seeming harmony with the hopes we will finally achieve objective grounds for universal social acceptance, or perhaps identifying with our denied flaws out of spite and spiraling into disharmony.
Both of these choices are insufficient and wholly miss their mark. As we attempt to further refine the ego as valid and true, we attach our self-sense to ever-complex conceptions and virtues which forever must be defended from collapse. Flaws are discovered, and fearing the despair of an empty self (lack of individuality), are corrected and fixed toward something more stable.
Flaws however, are ever-present in the rational self. Our disharmonies coexist with our harmonies, and to the extent we deny the realities of these disharmonies from the ego-self, we deny them consciousness and push them into the periphery of our existence. This is the subconscious, the shadow, and in moments of weakness, where we feel we can no longer keep up with the authority of our ego towards maintaining harmony, we may identify with this shadow-self out of spite for the harmonizing ego's authoritarian rule. We deny the righteousness of harmony as pretentious and moralizing, and double down on disharmony in rebellion (I.e. self-destructive behaviors and beliefs). The seemingly ever-present existence of disharmony, the truth of harmony always decaying into disharmony, the fact of death at the end of this life, and our orientation towards it, gives this ego a sense of truth and stability.
Neither paths are sufficient because each denies the reality of the other, and therefore destabilizes itself. Identification with disharmony destabilizes an identification with harmony, and vice-versa. Though both forces are within us, always at play, all of the time, identification with one over the other -valuation and identification of one over the other- is what divides the whole of our being into fragmented and disowned parts; conscious and unconscious, self and other, subject and object. We do not destroy dissonance by becoming unconscious of it: this merely serves to blind us. The very act of denying disharmony puts us in a constant state of disharmony (anxiety).
This is the ego process as we experience it, and without this process there is no ego. This process is rendered irrelevant and non-existent by the full recognition that the self is not dependant on harmony over dissonance, social acceptance over non-acceptance, truth over non-truth, perfection over flaw, etc. There is not a single reason that gives our being more reality than another, nor a single thought, action, or object. All are seen and can be seen by the true Self which is limited by nothing, and depends on nothing for it's existence. This Self does not need to be argued for, it does not need to be accepted by another, it is not harmony as opposed to dissonance, as then it would depend on dissonance for its existence.
We are not that. We are consciousness (not the conception of consciousness) which depends on nothing for its being. Abide in this and be free from the anxiety of chasing yourself in external objects which cannot contain you. You know who you are, and now the objects you thought were you simply come and go like the tides. This has been the secret goal of the ego all along, and in the full recognition of this goal itself you see that the journey has ended.
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2021.12.03 21:42 Holdout_44 What are we doing here?
So here I sit, listening to That UFO Podcast. It’s an interview with “Chase Kloetzke, who is a forensic investigator, author, journalist and more”. I’d say this is some of the most batshit crazy self aggrandizement I’ve ever heard, except it seems to be where the “UFO Community” is these days. Name dropping the big guys dropping hints about “the truth”, anecdotal stories of grays and “inside knowledge”. Does no one realize we’ve been here before? I’d love to listen to a podcast or read an article these days that doesn’t mention Lou, Mellon, TTSA, ATIP (sic?) and just delves into the possibility of the phenomenon (they do exist Radio Misterioso) and it’s implications. I don’t pretend to understand what this phenomenon is or where it’s going, nor do I understand the motives of this circus and cult(s) of personality that have arisen since 2017, but it reeks of at best ego driven profit taking and at worst a disinformation campaign that we have seen time and time again. Feel free to downvote
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2021.12.03 21:42 jainaberrie LF: Ditto, mawile FT: leaf stone, cranidos
I’m looking for a ditto and a mawile, I don’t have too much to offer since I’m only at the 5th gym, but I can trade a leaf stone or cranidos if anyone’s willing :-).
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2021.12.03 21:42 TheDeadWhales Nothing like some good old forestry.
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2021.12.03 21:42 NFLK13 “It’s been 10 incredible years, and we always said if we’re going to take a little break, we’re gonna do it when we’re on a high, at our peak” - Jade on Graham Norton (Little Mix “Between Us” debut live performance + Interview)
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2021.12.03 21:42 serpentman The Holy Grail
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